manifestYou say you’re manifesting your Specific Person. You’re affirming, scripting, visualizing… and also checking their socials every 30 minutes, rereading old texts, analyzing their IG likes like it’s a full-time job.
Babe that’s not manifesting. That’s obsessing. And it’s giving lack. And guess what lack creates? More lack. More waiting. More “almost, but not quite.”
So if you’re ready to shift from “needy energy” to “main character magnetic,” let’s talk about how to stop obsessing over your SP while still manifesting the hell out of them.
1. Get Real With Yourself: Why Are You Obsessed?
This part might sting, but we’re not here to coddle egos, we’re here to get results.
Ask yourself: Are you manifesting from love… or from fear? Are you trying to prove you’re enough? Trying to get them to validate you? Trying to “fix” something with a relationship?
Obsession usually comes from one core belief: “I don’t have it yet, and I don’t believe I will.”
Catch that. Flip it. “It’s already mine. I’m the version who is chosen.” You’re not trying to get them, you’re aligning with the version of you who has them.
2. Prioritize Your Self-Concept Over the
Your SP is not the prize. You are.
If you’re putting them above yourself energetically, you’re making them your God. You’re handing them the pen to write your story. And we don’t do that here.
Focus on YOU. Affirm who you are:
- “I am magnetic.”
- “I am unforgettable.”
- “I am always chosen, loved, and prioritized.”
- “My SP is lucky to have me.”
Your reality shifts when you shift. Not when you refresh their page for the hundredth time.
3. Let the 3D Be Boring
You’re obsessing because you’re watching the 3D like it’s gospel.
Newsflash: The 3D is old. Expired. Delayed. It’s showing you your past assumptions.
So stop waiting for your SP to text before you feel loved. Stop needing a like or view to feel seen. You give that to yourself now. You lead. The 3D follows. Not the other way around.
Start saying: “Of course it looks like nothing’s happening. That’s just the old story dying.”
4. Stay Busy Being Her
You know, the version of you who’s secure, chosen, relaxed, and magnetic AF.
She’s not spiraling. She’s not stalking. She’s not wondering if she’s doing it wrong. She’s living. Loving herself. Glowing. Being the version that gets it all.
So… live like her now.
- Romanticize your solo walks.
- Pour into your passions.
- Focus on your glow-up.
- Journal from the end, not the lack.
You’re not waiting. You’re becoming.
5. Create Safety in the Waiting
The reason obsession feels so loud is because your nervous system is in fight-or-flight. So regulate.
Remind yourself: “Nothing is missing. Everything I want is already mine.” Take deep breaths. Ground yourself. Move your body. Reaffirm your identity.
Obsession loses its grip when you feel safe in the knowing.
You Don’t Have to Obsess to Manifest
You don’t have to micromanage, overthink, or spiral to get what you want.
You just have to assume it’s done and embody the version of you who already has it.
Your SP is already yours. Your only job? Act like it. Feel like it. Live like it.
Because when you do… the obsession fades. And the manifestation lands
